Day 15: Love is Honorable

I’ve been thinking about this for the last week—about what it means to honor you.

I keep forgetting that it’s not all about respect and ‘honoring’ with words and gifts and showers of kisses. The book talks about treating someone with high worth and esteem, to treat the person as ‘set apart for a higher purpose.’

You are set apart for a higher purposes. You are special and unique.

While I know I need to honor you with my words and my actions and even my attitudes, I think the larger truth here is that I need to treat you as holy, set apart as precious, special, unique.

I like this line from the book: “A person who has become holy to you has a place no one can rival in your heart. He or she is sacred to you, a person to be honored, praised, and defended.”

It’s mostly something in the mind, to remember to not treat each other as roommates or co-parenters or TV watchers, but as people who are highly valued, special, held in regard.

Please forgive me where you don’t feel valued by me.

I even did the ‘dare’ on this one which is doing something unusually helpful or showing respect. You were sick yesterday and I cleaned the downstairs of our house and did a few extra loads of laundry. But I didn’t have the best attitude—it’s the attitude piece that I need to work on. I wasn’t mad at you or anything, but I also wasn’t taking pleasure in it.

I pray that I learn to do better and better at making you feel highly valued.

Day 16 Prep—Love Intercedes: Make a list of 3 specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse’s life or in your marriage. I shall have my list by tomorrow, but we’ll see how much of it I’ll be willing to share online.