I went back and read the first post in this blogging project (although it’s not really a blogging project – it was my way to teach myself to be more intentional in our marriage).
The two main commitments did not include writing a blog post every day.
These were the commitments:
- To talk to you: During the day, in the evening, to make time to check in with you.
- To create moments: To be the leader in doing stuff that is fun or challenging or even charitable.
Those aren’t commitments, though, for just a year. It can take us our whole lives for me to get really good at both of those things.
Basically, talking to you is learning to excavate your heart – to learn your hopes and dreams and the things that make you hurt.
And creating moments? It’s acting on what I discover about your heart.
Both of these things… as we approach our 10th anniversary in 2 days.. these are lifelong commitments. I’m not always going to be awesome at them.
You have the right to remind me, though. 🙂 Remind… not nag (I say that in jest because you are NOT a nag at all).
I love you and want to spend my life talking and getting to know you and creating moments that will grow us and bring us joy.
I’ve been battling insomnia and worry around work issues.
You’ve been extremely kind and helpful – while also not allowing me to wallow.
This morning, you basically told me to turn my stress switch off. Easier said than done, but that’s okay.
I took it as a call to be diligent and do the things that I can do. That’s all I can do. That’s all you can do.
Do what we can and trust God with the rest.
Did you know that?
You have skills that you might not realize you have. Things you take for granted because they are your skills and you assume all other people have them.
Here are ten talents or positive character traits that you possess that aren’t nearly as common as you think they are. You might not think they are a big deal, but they paint a picture of a very wonderful person:
- You’re punctual: This means you’re responsible and you’re respectful of people’s time.
- You’re disciplined: You’ve been working out for 3-5 days a week for at least a year now. No matter how you feel about your eating habits (which aren’t as bad as you think), you are an extremely disciplined person.
- You’re hilarious: If I could videotape your dance moves – when you’re trying to be funny – you’d understand.
- You’re sweet: You are sweet, gentle, and loving with your children. In cuddle moments, I’m typically second string to you.
- You’re principled: You stand for things. You are positively stubborn when you need to be.
- You’re pretty: Beautiful, sure. Cute, yes. But there’s something about ‘pretty’ that describes you. Some might not take that as a compliment, but I see it as a natural inner attractiveness that makes its way from the inside out.
- You’re good with numbers: I hate numbers. I suck at them.
- You’re committed: I always think of how you pushed your way through college without incurring debt while saving up to buy your own home. Amazing.
- You’re smart: You see things differently than I do. I value your insight – and you have very good insight (you don’t give yourself enough credit here).
- You’re faithful: I know I can count on you. When you say you’re going to do something, you do it.
There you have it. Feel free to let me know which ones I missed. 🙂
We had fun. We saw a play, had some wine at this super cool wine shop.
Les Miserables was wonderful. You were as beautiful and charming and fun as ever. I had such a good time on our evening out.
You have always been and I suspect always will be a good date.. and My Valentine.
1, The Les Mis set 2. My steak 3. Our wine. 4. You and I in front of the Historical Gwinnett Courthouse (where our wedding reception was)
I might have touched on this one before.
But today, I’d like to discuss a bit in detail some of the obvious and subtle ways that your beauty shines through. We’re going to stick to the physical today. It’s part of the 10 Days of Tina for your 40th birthday.
Your laugh – it makes you light up.
There are other things, but some of these things are best left between you and me. I gave you a card. You can read about ’em there.
I love you. You’re beautiful. You’re cute. You’re sexy. You’re incredible.
We’re still keeping up with our calorie counting discipline as per the New Year. I’m 43 and must be more diligent with the midsection.
You are very good at giving me kudos via text when I show you how awesome I’m eating.
I send a healthy picture. You grant me encouragement
There’s nothing more to say about this than simply posting the picture:
One of the sweetest compliments you could receive