1/16/2015 – Day 355: I appreciate the encouragement…

We’re still keeping up with our calorie counting discipline as per the New Year. I’m 43 and must be more diligent with the midsection.

You are very good at giving me kudos via text when I show you how awesome I’m eating.

I send a healthy picture. You grant me encouragement

I send a healthy picture. You grant me encouragement

9/30/14 – Day 247: Thank You For Your Encouragement

On this particular day, I had a lot on my mind and you let me talk it out on the phone as I drove to Costco to get us paper goods (isn’t it amazing that you can’t get out of there for less than $80?).

Anyway, there are moments when you show how well you know me. You are a huge source of wisdom for me. I need to be better at asking you to impart it to me. I really lean on you for your well-grounded, calm approach to certain things that drive me crazy.

Thank you. You encouraged me today.

7/30/14 – Day 185: You’re an encourager

I was working on developing a new networking relationship that could potentially be very powerful for us.

I flubbed it pretty badly.

You reminded me, simply, that all I can do is my best. We have to trust God for the results. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.

(Although I don’t think that means, in your world, that I should be a lazy slacker).

You often come through with that peaceful bit of commentary: Do your best, if it’s meant to be, it’ll be.


Because of Your Encouragement

At the beginning of this year, I made a renewed commitment to one of my blogs. I created a 14 day challenge for my readers which is requiring me to put out content, worksheets, and a promotional email everyday.

I didn’t anticipate the time required. Normally, I just write and writing isn’t so tough for me. It’s the editing and packaging and creating content that serves. But I digress.

My point is this: I’ve felt a little bad about the additional time. I’ve been apologetic. But you’ve been in my corner and encouraging me and telling me to shut up if I say things like, ‘This is dumb. Why am I doing it?’

So thank you… you know the little things that have been put in this little heart and mind of mine and you are sensitive to encourage me to pursue them in bite-sized chunks.

Love is not Jealous (Love Dare Day 8)

For this Dare, I was supposed to do 2 things:

  1. Destroy the negative list done Love Dare Day 7.
  2. Pick out an accomplishment and be intentional about highlighting it and appreciating it.

Destroying the Negative

I prayed as often as I could when I started doing  a mental negative list.  My role is not to tally things up. It’s to love you like Christ loves the church. If he doesn’t tally my horrible record against me, then I can’t do yours (which is actually not bad at all).  I have no right to keep records of wrongs.

I have a right to talk to you about things that upset me, but I am not the person to sit and judge. I really should ask your forgiveness for that in the real world.

Being Your Biggest Fan

You’ve been so diligent and two things:

  1. Bringing order to our house–which allows for greater peace, and
  2. Encouraging health and exercise.

I’ve never seen you so disciplined as you have been over the last few months. It’s an incredible example.  I hope I do better at encouraging you.

I pray that I do a better job about my mental lists. For that matter, I also pray that you fall more and more in love with me. I love you and I need you.


Every once in a while something triggers your pain.

It’s pain that I caused. The triggers sometimes have nothing to do with me. But they send your heart and mind back to some time late in 2009 when, well, you know what I’m talking about.

You mention that when you struggle, you want me to experience half the pain that I inflicted. While I have absolutely no defense and no right to compare, there’s not a day that doesn’t go by that I don’t sit for a bit in regret… even fear. I fear that I will never be the source of strength, trust, and comfort that I was hoping to be for you.  Or that you’ll never allow me to be (again–who could blame you)?

Regardless, I love you. I cherish you. Most of the time, I think, you realize this and you believe it. Other times, not so much, but the other times are getting fewer and I’ve been doing a lot of growing. I pray when you get to this entry some time in the distant future that our marriage will be not only strong but a city on a hill: a source of encouragement, hope, and strength for others, maybe even others for whom the wounds are fresh.