Happy 10th Anniversary!

10 years.

These have been the best 10 years of my life.

You have brought me more joy and more growth than I could have imagined.

More than the joy and growth, though, I’m excited about what is ahead. This verse keeps popping into my mind:

But one thing I do:forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.

I know that is Paul talking about his walk with God and his calling, but for me, I keep thinking about us.

I don’t want to forget what lies behind, but I do want to use it to focus on pressing toward the goals and dreams we have as a couple and as a family.

The goals and dreams aren’t complicated:

  • I want us to have fun.
  • I want us to encourage each other.
  • I want us to take chances and avoid regrets.
  • I want us to do the things we want to do simply because we want to.
  • I want us to love each other deeply and passionately.
  • I want us to lead our kids well and help lead them into being awesome adults.
  • I want to be financially free and physically healthy.
  • I want to be a family that loves Jesus well and serves others selflessly.

We can forget what lies behind while still using it to drive us toward our goals as a couple and a family.

So I commit this to you as we celebrate our 10th year:

  • God will be my priority (feel free to remind me as needed).
  • My health – physically, spiritually, emotionally, and mentally – will come in a close second because without these things, I’m of no use to you or anybody else.
  • You. You are my most treasured relationship and my most treasured stewardship. You are my heart. You are a gift. And you I commit to keeping safe as I also commit to challenging you and doing my best to bring out the goodness that lives inside of you.
  • Our Children. Maggie, Jake, and Sam are also my heart. May I be the Dad to them that lifts them up and encourages them.
  • All the other stuff: You can help me figure this out.

You are lovely. You are beautiful. You are precious.

Please never forget that, even if I fail at times to treat you as such.

Never forget it.

I love you and I’m thankful for you.

Happy Anniversary  (and thank you for being so good to me)!

 

**By the way, you’ll notice posts being numbered. I couldn’t quite keep to a daily schedule, but I hope you’ll enjoy some of the memories in this little tribute blog. 🙂

5/13/15 – Day 472: Dance Parties Are What I Live For!

If the kids wouldn’t have freaked out, I would have taken a video or a picture of their dancing extravaganza last night to Maggie’s ‘Dove Cameron Radio Station’ on Pandora.

I mean, the boys… who knew they could rave like that!

It was a moment of sheer joy and sweetness. You and I were talking at the table.

The kids were dancing their hearts out.

The music was mildly uplifting at best, fun and harmless at worst.

It was a sweet, perfect, beautiful midweek moment.

These little things… these times when the kids dance so hard, it makes them want to come in and give us hugs and kisses and makes them laugh and smile with each other.

And you and I talking about what’s going on.

These things? That’s what I live for.

I love you.

5/12/15 – Day 471: Talk and Create Moments

I went back and read the first post in this blogging project (although it’s not really a blogging project – it was my way to teach myself to be more intentional in our marriage).

The two main commitments did not include writing a blog post every day.

These were the commitments:

  1. To talk to you: During the day, in the evening, to make time to check in with you.
  2. To create moments: To be the leader in doing stuff that is fun or challenging or even charitable.

Those aren’t commitments, though, for just a year. It can take us our whole lives for me to get really good at both of those things.

Basically, talking to you is learning to excavate your heart – to learn your hopes and dreams and the things that make you hurt.

And creating moments? It’s acting on what I discover about your heart.

Both of these things… as we approach our 10th anniversary in 2 days.. these are lifelong commitments. I’m not always going to be awesome at them.

You have the right to remind me, though. 🙂 Remind… not nag (I say that in jest because you are NOT a nag at all).

I love you and want to spend my life talking and getting to know you and creating moments that will grow us and bring us joy.

4/28/15 – Day 457: Rainy Vacay Day, Working Out, and Chilling Out

The weather wasn’t our friend today. But it never got as bad as the reports said it would get. And it didn’t stop us from having a sweet time!

So we worked out and too another long walk on the beach. We chilled out on the white chairs and had some wine.

Admittedly, I keep having a hard time chilling, always feeling like I have to strategize stuff like parenting and my career. I apologize for that.

I pray that the rest of this trip, you and I will be simply present with each other… simply enjoying each other. You’re a fun, beautiful woman and I’m so thankful for you and that you chose me.

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4/10/15 – Day 439: Planning Our One Shot at Life Together

I’m 43 and you’re not.

I’ve been thinking over the last few days that we have one shot at this life we’re living.

We have one pass through our children being at the exact ages they are now. We’ll have one shot at it when they’re 8, 9, 10, 11, 15, 16, 18, 21, 25, 30, 35, and so forth.

You and I are in this together for the long haul. Let’s do it well. Let’s do it all on purpose.

Let’s build something together that is full of hope, sweetness, joy, and fun. Let’s take chances. Let’s love our kids and do stuff that we don’t want to do as parents (like that Capture the Flag game) because we know we’re planting seeds that will grow our relationships.

Let’s be intimate even when we both feel fat.

Let’s plan and plot and scheme to have the best lives we possibly can to influence each other, our children, and send ripples out far beyond.

We signed up to do this together. Let’s do it.

2/15/15 – Day 385: A recap of Valentine’s Day

We had fun. We saw a play, had some wine at this super cool wine shop.

Les Miserables was wonderful. You were as beautiful and charming and fun as ever. I had such a good time on our evening out.

You have always been and I suspect always will be a good date.. and My Valentine.

1, The Les Mis set 2. My steak 3. Our wine. 4. You and I in front of the Historical Gwinnett Courthouse (where our wedding reception was)

1, The Les Mis set 2. My steak 3. Our wine. 4. You and I in front of the Historical Gwinnett Courthouse (where our wedding reception was)