Day 150 – 15 Minutes Makes a Difference

Day 150 – Wednesday, June 25th 2014

I listen to a lot of podcasts (which you crack on me about from time to time).

The other day – Friday, I think – I was binge listening to Erik Fisher’s Beyond the To Do List Podcast. I listened to Dustin Riechmann’s episode where he spoke of carving out 15 minutes of focused time with his wife every night.

We did that on Wednesday, almost by accident. We just sat there on our bed and caught up. We hit on funny topics. We discussed a parenting struggle you were having. We talked about a parenting struggle that I’m having. You shared how much you relate to one of the struggles that one of our children has. I talked about how much I feel just ill-equipped to be a dad and even a provider.

That sounds heavy. It wasn’t completely that heavy. We joked and ribbed and stared lovingly in each other’s eyes (that might be an overstatement, but still it was refreshing).

It’s really true that 15 minutes doesn’t sound like a long time, but if it’s focused, it’s so much more time than most couples take for each other (I’m guessing)… especially couples with a child or three.

In the end, if I don’t have a good marriage and a good family, there’s nothing else that really matters. You are my primary stewardship. Our children come a close second. We need to continue to build our relationship and knit ourselves together.

Most everything in the world conspires against quality marriages. Let’s not let that happen.

(I probably should give Dustin Riechmann a shoutout…. click here to go to his site.)

Day 149 – Guys Day at the Lego Movie

Day 149 – Tuesday June 24th, 2014

I took the day off today to hang with our boys.

The agenda:

1. The Lego Movie

2. Mcdonalds for lunch

3. Chattahoochee Nature Center (to walk all trails)

4. Riverside Park’s playground

5. A shower

It was a fun day with the boys, although I did make the mistake of leaving my work email on my phone. I turned off my phone a couple times completely to battle back the temptation, but a few unfortunate message got through.

What I learned during this day?

I don’t want my job to ever overtake my family. It’s not healthy.

I need to spend more direct time with both boys together and alone. We saw folks fishing and doing other things. Perhaps I need to reconnect with some of those hobbies and take the boys out? I need to not only be a dad, but a fun teacher on some of these things.

I appreciate that you encouraged me to find a few days this summer to take off and just spend it with the family. It was a fun day.

Ending the day at the playground

Ending the day at the playground

Snacks for The Lego Movie

Snacks for The Lego Movie


Day 148 – You made quiche and I’m a real man anyway

Day 148 – Monday June 23rd, 2014

If real men don’t eat quiche, I don’t want to be a real man.

Thanks for this flaky-crusted, egg, cheese, avocado, bacon, and squash taste-bud pleasing dinner.

I'll gladly give my mancard

I’ll gladly give my mancard

6/26/14 – Day 151 – You’re Creative

Day 151 – Thursday, June 26th

You are more creative than you give yourself credit for.

While you might not feel HGTV-worthy, you know how to put little flourishes together to add a little flavor.

Our friends asked you to do the cupcakes for their boy’s 3rd birthday party.

He loves Batman.

You created this and I think it’s cool:

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Day 146 – A funeral, the pool, and a rude interruption

Day 146 – Saturday, June 21, 2014

Let’s see…

Ahhh! Now I remember…

I led music at a funeral for one of the members of my mom’s home churches. She was a wonderful lady with a huge family. The funeral was down at a funeral home on Auburn Ave.  Let’s just say a white boy with an acoustic guitar isn’t the typical musical fare there.

But I led a song or two that mom and her home churches know and it went well.

I busted tail back home to take the two non-sick children to the pool for a bit until the rains came in. Then it was home for a nice little evening.

You and I decided it was a good evening for, well, to be a married couple. But for the first time in our 9 year marriage, we were rudely interrupted by our poor little sick guy. Dang it. Dang it. Dang it. 🙂

We’ll pick up where we left off some time soon.

Day 145 – And the decluttering continues…

You’re still taking full advantage of Sam’s mystery fever. You attacked your closet with like Jared attacks a Subway turkey and cheese on wheat.

I know it seems a little unexciting to appreciate stuff like decluttering a closet, but maybe I’m just an unexciting dude.

You pointed out that you haven’t worn some of the clothes in ages. There’s no point in keeping stuff just to keep stuff. You’re right and I need to listen to that wisdom a bit more in my life. Thanks for helping lighten our load.

Here’s a picture of all the stuff you’re giving to your friend….

Lightening our load

Lightening our load

And a picture of some squash a friend gave me from his garden.

Little and big squashes

Little and big squashes



Day 144 – The Linen Closet Got a Makeover

Day 144 – Thursday June 19th

I played tennis (despite what might be a rotator cuff tear or something along those lines). I need to serve like Michael Chang, I guess.

Michael Chang Underhand Serve vs Ivan Lendl (French Open 1989) [HD] from Hykha on Vimeo.

When I got  home, I saw that your stir cray-cray pushed you into productivity: You completely redid our linen closet. I was going to take a picture of it, but I didn’t.

Let’s just say I can find pillow cases and bars of soap and every other such thing that previously required spelunking gear.

Thanks, sweetie, for whipping our joint into shape.