Day 51 – Sloppy Joes, Sloppy Sloppy Joes

Whether good or not, we love comfort food.

We especially love comfort food on a cool night, supplemented by a crackling fire in the fireplace.

On this particular day, we were all in. Sloppy Joes, fire, a couple of sitcoms.

Sloppy Joes

Classic Joes

Day 50 – A Pain in the Neck and a Softer Heart

There are times that I forget that I’m knee deep into this ‘Falling in Love (Deeper) Project‘.

When I’m in that mode, I focus on everything that would make my life more comfortable:

  • Dinner completed when I get home
  • Children completely well-mannered and serene when I arrive
  • House completely tidy
  • Tile project done
  • Plenty of money in the bank
  • etc. etc. etc.

The ball starts rolling downhill and it’s no good. I become self-centered and selfish and passive-aggressive. I focus on me. I focus on my wants and ‘needs’.

Day 50 (Monday – 3/17/14) was this way for me. I remember having a horrible attitude. I was a pain in the neck.

And I was a pain in the neck when you, literally, had a recurrence of your recent neck issue. You were upset and frustrated and in pain. And I was worried about some stupid dish being on the counter (probably, knowing me).

My purpose and goal at home should, at all times, be this: To love you and the children at all times. That won’t mean being a pushover, but it will mean having a heart that is turned toward you and our little ones. It will mean having a soft, tender heart that is bent toward serving and caring.

I’m not perfect, and I’ll probably be a jerk at some point today, but may God, through the Holy Spirit, continue to change me and help me not only to be in love with you, but to love and serve you consistently and in the way that you need.

Day 49 – Too Much Tablet. Seriously. #ParentFail

Honey… while you were gone on the campout with our daughter? All Sunday? You know what happened at our house?

I did laundry and let our boys completely vegetate out on their Nooks. I’m a horrible dad. Seriously. I need a training course or to read a book or to grow a pair and simply turn off the electronics.

Actually, that last option seems like the best option. Just make them turn them off. They’ll figure out something to do. If I don’t make them turn them off, then, eventually, they won’t know how to figure out how to do other stuff.

But at least I got all the laundry done and had the house nice and clean for you and our little girl when you got back from a camping trip which, apparently, was a continuous loop of Let it Go from Frozen. 

Speaking of Frozen, it just came in the mail. Do you know how excited I am! 🙂 (I seriously am).

Day 48 – Campouts and Nutribullets

You took our daughter camping (or cabin-ing) with her Girl Scout Troop.

The boys and I sorely missed you! They asked me about every 23 minutes when you were coming home. It’s like they were asking ‘Are we there yet?’ on a trip to Disney World.

But we made it through, even though my coffee maker died (RIP Herr Krups).  I dropped them off at an all girl birthday party (since it was our friends) at a place called Farmhouse in the City.  The boys were quick to point out when I picked them up that it wasn’t a real farm. No horses. No cows. No pigs. No farm.

That said, it was a cute place. Definitely better for the young girl set, I think.

On other notes, I went to Bed, Bath, and Beyond during the party to look for a new coffee maker. I came home with a Nutribullet – because what we need right now is to spend $1,000s on fruit and veggies so we can eek out a few smoothies. Perhaps all my ailments will leave me, so it’ll be worth it for sure.

I loved getting those pictures from you while you were bonding with our daughter.  So cute around the fire and in front of the cabin. I love my little ladies!

Day 47 – I’m a surly mess

Sweetheart (any of you who are reading this, check my about page so you’ll know that these posts are all addressed to my wife–I’m not calling you sweetheart).

I’m surly right now. My clients are scared of me. My coworkers are scared of me.

Let’s  hope it’s out of my system, right? Let’s have a nice weekend. You deserve it. I’m not sure if I do, but you do.

I love you.

Day 45 – 6 Reasons I Love Girls Night Out (Although I’m a Dude)

On Day 45 of the Falling In Love (Deeper) Project, you had Girls Night Out with your buddies.

I had the good fortune to help get our children to bed and eat a crockpot chicken taco meal by myself while I watched some sitcom you don’t care anything about.

After those two things, I spent tons of time on Pinterest. Strange, right? A dude hanging out on Pinterest while his wife is out with the ladies? Shouldn’t I be setting up my fantasy baseball team or gearing up for my March Madness bracket? But alas, I’ve got a new gig directing social media for a food ecommerce site, so it goes with the territory.

Back to the title of this post: Why I Love Girls Night Out…

  1. I get to hang with the children by myself. Sure, it’s later and they’re about to go to bed, but it’s kind of fun being the main person tucking them all in.
  2. I get to watch a DVR’d show that you don’t like without sending you to a different room.
  3. I get to work on my new side job without interfering with our alone time.
  4. I’m starting to love Pinterest. Don’t judge. It’s not just about weddings, cupcakes, and new shoe trends. Seriously. Please don’t judge.
  5. You normally come home refreshed and with a lighter step after getting to decompress with your friends.
  6. You also (Pro Tip for Guys) come home a little more geared toward, well, marital intimacy. 🙂 I don’t know if it’s because you’re more relaxed or feeling gratitude or had a glass of wine. Regardless, much appreciation, ma’am.

There you have it.

That said, one of the husbands texted me and asked me what it would take for us to get a Girls Night Out. I suggested we’d need to find at least a third person and give you and his wife about a 5 week lead time. 🙂

Day 44 – Yes! Of course you can borrow (or have) my Braves hat

So you texted me today to say:  “I like the Atlanta Braves hat you have. I’m stealing it for awhile.”

Me: “the visor? go for it”

You: “Not the visor”

Me: Regardless enjoy

The truth of the matter is that you look super cute, dare I say sexy, in a baseball cap. You can have all of mine for all I care. Just let me borrow one every once in a while.

See I picture you in the Old Navy compression pants, a cool workout top, the baseball cap, and your running shoes. And you make me want to work out. wink wink.

Day 43 – Manic Monday & the Dread of Camping

We just introduced one more item to my personal plate of stuff to do. It’s that steak thing – I won’t mention the outfit yet.. I’m managing social media for an ecommerce site.  It hit me when I got home that I will have to be extremely strict on (a) being present when I’m with you and the kids and (b) being diligent when I commit time to the social media gig.

It made me a bit manic all day (never helpful). And it probably came through. You were sweet though, telling me that I just need to give you a heads up and we can work around this moonlighting venture of mine.

Tents, Community Bathrooms, and Girl Scouts

You are going camping with our daughter this weekend. Let’s just put it this way: You conned me when we were dating by telling me, “Sure! I’d love to go walk the Appalachian Trail with you.” I now know that meant one of two things:

  1. You were trying to woo me and would do whatever you could to snag this beefcake of a man or…
  2. You simply knew that I wouldn’t follow through. 🙂

Needless to say, you and I have never been camping and it might not be on the menu anytime soon.

You are not completely jazzed about the mechanics of the trip, but I know you and our girl will bond. Oh yeah… you just texted me that the weather dude says it’s supposed to rain all weekend. Praying for a shift in the weather patterns for you, sweetie.


Day 42 – Sunday with the Boys

I hung out with our little guys  while you took our girl to her like 20th birthday party in the past 3 weeks (or so it seems).

The best part of the day… meeting you and our daughter at Costco to feed our kids delicious and nutritious hot dogs for an early dinner.

It was a scattered day as seems common Sundays. Perhaps we need to simplify the day a bit and make it more of a Sabbath?

We ended with cheeseburgers and The Walking Dead, so can’t beat that, right?