It’s been since November 1st that I wrote about Love Dare’s Day 13. And I’m not going to go back and read my original Day 14 entry (though you can click that link if you’d like to).
Day 14 Dare
First, I don’t love the dare:
Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they’d really like to work on. Just be together.
I don’t mind the ‘just be together’, but we normally do things together at night–or at least we watch TV together. I can do the hanging projects you have for me… the new frame with the kids’ pictures in it and that other thing for your closet. But we have to do it together.
So, sweetie, I will dig into the actual Day 14 text and create my own dare.
First, a synopsis: Day 14 is all about how we can get lazy and focus on picky things instead of taking delight in our spouse. It basically says that we choose to be irritable. We choose to respond in various ways. We lead ourselves into those types of reactions.
Therefore, it’s possible to lead our hearts toward taking delight. It’s possible to make a decision to flirt and have fun and enjoy our spouse. In truth, part of the reason for this blog is to give me a way to take delight in who you are. Just like anybody else, I can drift and become lazy. I can get whiny about ways I’d wish you would act or react or ways I wish you’d treat me.
This blog has helped me see the absolutely wonderful things you do day in and day out both for me and our children.
A Delightful Email
We got a boatload of drama going on in the family right now. And I’m not too stupid to realize that while the drama isn’t directly within our immediate family, it stirs up a bunch of crud that affects us.
I’ve been ripped up internally as have you. I’ve been worried about how I should act or not act or what I should say or not say. So I’ve been not doing a great job in taking delight in you.
Here’s what I’ll do:
- I will brainstorm the things about you that make me happy and delighted.
- I will construct an email.
- I will send that email.
- I will make sure that email is a little on the silly side, because it seems like this taking delight thing is a call to focus on the joy and fun and sweetness of things.
Here’s my initial list of your awesomeness:
- Great Legs
- Beautiful smile
- Huge laugh
- Wonderful mom
- Planner and good at getting stuff done
- Puts others before yourself
- Great dance moves
- Homemaker (as in you truly make our house a home)
- Great with decorating
- Awesome activity planner for our kids
- Fun with crafts for our kids
- Appreciator of quality sitcoms
- Disciplined with exercise
- Did I mention the legs (and the attached tush?)
We’ll stop there.
I’m, for some reason, nervous about sending you this email. Maybe I’ll schedule it to hit later. We’ll see. You probably won’t remember it when you finally read this blog.
I love you, ma’am. I take delight in you and promise to lead myself to taking even more delight in you.