8/7/14 – Day 193: Stayt Night

The symbol of Stayt Night

The symbol of Stayt Night

If you can have a staycation, you can have a stayt night.

It’s my version of the ‘Stay at home date’.

You’ve been sick and while we had the house to ourselves and the kids were at my parents, we were planning on a date night out.

But since the aforementioned sickness and we were tired, it was pizza and a movie in. We had fancier pizza than Little Caesar’s, gourmet chocolate chip cookies from Fresh Market, and margaritas.

We watched Divergent – or, as I like to call it,  Hunger Games without bows and arrows.

And we had a wonderfully sweet, fun evening.

I love you and I love our date nights – whether they’re out on the town or in on the couch.

8/6/14 – Day 192: You Gave Me a Kitchen Pass!

There Mark is on the keyboards on the stage at the Tin Roof Cantina, sitting in with the Mike Veal Band – an Atlanta area party, wedding, corporate gig, etc. staple.

Mark celebrates his birthday the same way every year. And it’s one of the only times I get to see my old youth leader from church/mentor in a lot of ways.

Thanks for giving me an evening to go out, have a beer or two, a big fat Philly cheesesteak and listen to classic rock, funk, R&B, and watch a bunch of white-people-overbite-dancing.

MW's Birthday - Thanks for the Kitchen Pass

MW’s Birthday – Thanks for the Kitchen Pass

8/4/14 – Day 190: Monday

It was a Monday. I’m trying to recreate every day. Most days, we exchanged emails and texts and I have photos somewhere.

But this Monday, apparently, was just a Monday. I know it was the day after your consignment sale.

My phone finally stopped going so far back on texts.

Truth told, I’m feeling guilty that today is 9/29 and I’m just now getting 8/4 out. But I do have some of the other days spotted throughout in draft form, but I didn’t want to publish out of order.

I’m sure this Monday was awesome and that we watched an episode of Royal Pains before I participated in #Foodiechats on Twitter. That sounds about like a Monday during the summer.

8/3/14 – Day 189: More Crockpotting, More Studding, and More Churching

Another full weekend summer day!

I kept rocking out the bathroom project (kind of).

We had delicious crockpot pulled pork.

And we enjoyed a fun time eating popsicles and running around after North Point Community Church’s service. It was a fun little time.

You were exhausted after a consignment weekend, but it was a very sweet day.

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8/2/14 – Day 188: A ridiculously productive day

Saturday August 2, 2014 – Day 188

We were so productive today!

You sold tons of stuff at the consignment sale.

I worked on the bathroom walls.

The kids and I went to the pool.

I prepared some crockpot Mexican chicken for fajitas.

It was generally a good day.

Thanks again for consigning! You da consign-bomb, yo!

the bathroom project

the bathroom project

burning off some energy

burning off some energy

I'm a stud

I’m a stud

The crockpot

The crockpot

 

7/31/14 Day 186 (pt 2) – Good habits and bad habits

Day 186- Thursday 7/31/14

We’ve had a couple interesting conversations recently. Conversations that don’t leave me feeling awesome about my skills as a financial provider.

I know this isn’t the place to air dirty laundry, but I wanted to give context.

You are the most important person in my life. And while you are the most important person in my life, I still can’t allow your ebbs and flows to determine my states of mind at any given moment.

Similarly, you can’t allow my moods to determine your current feelings.

I believe that’s what codependence is or what can lead to codependence.

I have to love you enough not to get swept up in your crazy when you’re going through a rough patch. And you can’t afford to allow yourself to get caught up in my crazy or feelings of insecurity.

The biggest thing, though, is we can’t get in the habit of giving ourselves over to our rough spots. Just because we feel something, doesn’t mean our actions have to follow.

And that’s something I’m trying to learn. If I don’t catch myself and correct myself or understand why I’m having an angry, insecure, lashing out moment, then it can lead to this habit of demanding my rights. I don’t have that right – not if my heart is to have a growing, healthy marriage and family.  If I give a crap about you and our children and our future, then nope, I don’t have the right to be a jerk and stay there.  Regardless of the circumstances, I gave up that right.

So… The point of this post is simply to recommit to keeping my side of the street clean. I need to be aware of my habits. And I need to watch myself.

And I need to love you unconditionally like Christ loves the church. There’s no person on this earth who is ALWAYS easy to love. Neither you nor I am always the sweetest, most lovable individuals in the world at all times. That’s too much to ask of anybody.

I love you when you’re unloveble. And I pray that you love me when I’m unlovable.  That’s a good habit to put into practice.

I love you. I love us.